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Relationships=20 TNT

Dating=20 Potential =20
By J.=20 = Thurman

In this=20 edition of CWR, I wanted to look at the people = who go=20 out and date for the sole purpose of potential.=20 Everybody is out looking for something and the = people=20 who say that they are not are just lying. Now, = depending=20 on what that something is weighs exclusively on = that=20 individual. Some date for companionship,=20 networking, friendship, sex, etc. The list can = be long=20 or short depending on who you talk to. However, = there is=20 a very special group that date potential and not = the=20 individual. The individual becomes a prop in = their=20 relationship production, starring them.=20

The problem with dating = potential is=20 that people are usually a poor judge of = potential and=20 just do not do it right. Dating potential can = often lead=20 you to waste your time, money and energy. And = anybody=20 that has read my book knows that I am all about = saving=20 your time money and energy. Hoping someone = will=20 turn it around is an optimistic way of looking = at it,=20 but there is a deeper truth. If your goal = is to=20 date people based off of their potential, be it = earning=20 potential, leadership potential and husband / = wife=20 potential, become a student of your craft and = show other=20 people how to do it properly. But for those who = do not=20 know when to leave a relationship because they = are still=20 chasing potential I say learn "when to say = when", if not=20 for you, then for all the peoples lives = that will=20 affect by your act of indecision and fear.=20

The Art of Dating=20 Potential has some key factors that = most people=20 need to be aware of in order to perform this = operation=20 successfully:

1.      Know=20 what you are looking=20 for.
2.      = Access your=20 prospect within the first encounter =
         based=20 off a three point = criteria.    =20

a)     = Need=20
b)     Benefit=20
c)      = Measurable return=20 (Time = Limit)
3.     =20 Assets (Financial or Network=20 = Resources)

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We=20 hear all the time about how people married their = spouse=20 because they "saw the potential in them" and = they where=20 successful. What these people do not tell is = that there=20 was such a substantially important piece to = their=20 decision that was exposed that they were = convinced that=20 this person was the "ONE". A piece of evidence = that=20 becomes the tipping point for their life = changing=20 decision-they utilized their intuition. Mr. or = Ms.=20 Potential could have just graduated from Harvard = with a=20 law degree or have just lost a multi-million = dollar=20 company or even someone that had and incredible = list of=20 contacts and resources that that person did not = know how=20 to use until you came etc.

There are some people that = abandoned=20 ship just when that "POTENTIAL" broke through = and they=20 miss out on reaping the harvest of the many = seeds that=20 they planted in that individual over time. And = there are=20 the people who stay the course and receive all = that are=20 due to them. People that are "Potential Chasers" = are=20 controlled by 'The Fear of Loss or The Hope of = Gain".=20 Dating Potential without a plan usually leaves = you with=20 a desperate fear of loss and missing out on = something=20 that ultimately controls your decision making = process.=20 That kind of mind state can often leave people = in limbo=20 never learning how to anchor their core beliefs = in being=20 specific about what they want and how to = articulate it,=20 not necessarily to other people, but to = themselves.=20 Living outside of the fear of losing out = or=20 gaining something is important so that they can = begin to=20 not become a slave to the "if I just...." When=20 you live=20 in that realm of dating potential and not dating = the=20 person it becomes a void that usually wastes = your time,=20 money and energy.

Do not date potential without a = plan of=20 action. Dating potential is not for everyone and = a=20 warning label is attached to handle with = respect. It can=20 become the kind of thing that can affect your = soul and=20 throw you off your purpose. Many people = say that=20 they are dating potential but it just becomes = another=20 excuse to hold on out of the fear of not being = alone.=20 The security of the familiar can be addictive. = Face up=20 to the real reason why you are dating and enjoy = the=20 experience. It is another wonderful journey in = the human=20 experience and you should learn from it as much = as you=20 can.

About the Author: A = native of=20 Chicago, J. Thurman uses his experience as a = researcher,=20 educator, and historian, to bring forth an = offering that=20 will start the movement to redefine the ideas of = relationships between men and women. = As a=20 published author and relationship guru, he = constantly=20 pushes the envelope in the war between truth an = honesty=20 in relationships. He is a graduate of Southern=20 University and currently lives in Atlanta,=20 GA. He currently speaks and tours all over = the=20 country.

Contact=20 Information:

J.=20 Thurman
2798 Peek Road #623
Atlanta, GA = 30318=20
Phone: 404-549-8566

http://www.themanyouall.com/

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