The College World Reporter

It's official! I like Steve Harvey's book, Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man. I like it so much so that I am making the chapter labeled Sportsfish vs. Keepers required reading for every woman. The chapter illustrates just how important a woman's mindset, sense of self-worth and knowledge of her inherent power is upon even the first interaction with a man. Let me explain by putting my own twist on it, for entertainment purposes only of course.
 
Now, imagine an attractive gentleman, Malik, who works out at the same gym with two women with exactly the same physical characteristics but very different mindsets. One who read my book, The Ring Formula How to Marry MR. RIGHT and one who didn't think she needed it.
 
The first, Kim, sees Malik eyeballing her and smiles as he confidently approaches while looking her up and down, complimenting her multiple times on everything from her French-manicured nails to her cute little dimples. "Superstar, you are an absolute dime piece!" She enjoys the attention and thanks Malik for recognizing a "real woman" and uses those manicured hands and model-like posture to further accent and illustrate the curves Malik apparently enjoys so much. She flirts back with rather overt body language; roaming eye here, biting of lip there. Malik boldly tells her that he's going to call her later that evening and she inputs her number into his phone without hesitation. She smiles, hands the phone back. "It's under Kim the Dime Piece", she replies. He laughs, puts the phone in his pocket and silently labels her a Sportfish. As he walks back to the weight bench he's already thinking about how he can bed Kim and change his workout schedule so he has to never see her again.
 
The second, Kimberly, sees Malik staring at her but pretends not to notice. Malik attempts to get her attention via eye contact but she only responds by changing machines and increasing the variety and intensity of her workout. Malik is now consumed by the chase and adjusts his workout routine to end exactly when Kimberly's does. He looks her up and down as he opens the exit door for her, but quickly adjusts his eyes after she responds with a piercing glance of disapproval. He routinely compliments her. "Wow, you are an absolute dime piece that moves at the speed of light...a woman on the move I see." She nods accordingly, maintaining only minimal eye contact, and thanks him while exiting quickly, heading directly for her car. Malik walks faster to catch up and then eases up and yells, "Hey, Ms. Fast Walker, what's your name?" She smiles as she prepares to shift gear into drive, rolls down the window, puts on her shades and coyly replies, "Well, it certainly isn't Ms. Fast Walker...and I'm worth a whole lot more than a dime". She smiles and drives off quickly. Malik laughs and immediately labels her a Keeper and begins to change his workout schedule to align with hers.

Moral to the story- Men behave the way women allow them. Be a lady and make men pursue by being on the move, slightly diva-like, not easily unimpressed while managing to be soft and nice and the men will put forth million-dollar effort. Be desperate for attention, rely on just sex appeal, question your worth and/or view men as the prize and get played faster than you can spend a dime! Use your power Ladies.

 

 

 

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